Tuesday, March 6, 2012

Lenten Work

Lent is well upon us now.  When reflecting on what I would sacrifice/do extra during this season, I thought that I would try to add exercise into the mix of my quest for ever improving health and wellness.  "Your body is a temple" and all that.  I tossed around quite a few others, as well.  However, it occurred to me that I never thought to ask God what I should do.  So in praying about it, I had the answer to start saying the rosary daily.  It makes total sense, considering I have been feeling a bit distant from my faith and faith practices.  Thanks, God, for the 2x4, I can always count on You!

I have always been fascinated by the rosary, but had a hard time with it due to the rote prayers and my wandering mind.  So, I ordered this book and am reading it now, and have just started saying the rosary. It isn't perfect, and I still struggle to reign in my thoughts and focus, but is something I am finding very peaceful, calming, and almost meditative.  The author discusses all this in her book and it really gives a good perspective on the practice, and I especially love the idea that Jesus doesn't care if I do it "perfectly".  He sees all our efforts.  I will keep trying to hone this practice as well.

As for finding the time, I found this awesome app for my phone and it comes in very handy to capture those extra minutes, when I don't have actual beads handy, and as a guide for all the prayers.  When my son falls asleep in the car, I say a rosary.  At night when the house is quiet and all are asleep, when I am nursing my baby, etc etc.  I may not get to say the whole thing at once, either, and that is okay.  Again, God knows I am trying.  And, like I always say, life is about progress, not perfection.

So, I will let you know how it all goes.  So far so good, I have been faithful, although there have been a few days that have been skipped due to life and circumstances.  I am also reading through a few Lenten and Catholic Mommy devotionals to help focus me inward and toward the cross during this season.  (Which is especially good during this political season, FB has been absolutely hurting my brain lately!  I very rarely read anything because I find it overstimulating.)

I wish you all a very holy and blessed Lent!  Best of luck on your own journey to the cross.

Tuesday, February 28, 2012

Lent


Have been traveling and making memories, so am just noodling on my Lenten Promise and post.  But I found this little poem very uplifting.  Enjoy!

Saturday, February 11, 2012

I made this!

Using only my fingers.  Finger crocheting is very appealing to me as I only need the yarn and my own two hands.  My husband keeps asking why I don't use a hook, but I am not that coordinated.  I saw a blog post and watched a few youtube videos on how to do it.  I did not use a pattern, am not entirely sure I was doing the "correct" stitching, and it is chock full of mistakes (uneven ends in a few spots, some visible knots, and one little 'hole').  But there is something satisfying about working the yarn with your hands and having something to show for it.  I found my groove in my own way of doing it.  Despite the mistakes, I think it came out pretty, and will still keep my bear cub warm!  It was made with love, and intention, for him, often while I was nursing him.  Working on this has been therapeutic, I forgot how much I enjoy 'crafty' working with my hands and how relaxing it is, simultaneously clearing my mind and bringing clarity and focus.  Next up, a pretty purple and pink blanket for my little bear.  As she said when I showed her the finished product, "It is SO cozy, mom!  Can I sleep with mine every night?"  Not perfect, but I enjoyed doing it, and am proud of the finished product.  Sort of a metaphor for life, no?






Sunday, February 5, 2012

Going Primal

I have mentioned on here that our family has made some big changes with regards to how we think, eat, and consume our food.  Normally, I eat pretty healthy, but this past year was not my best and we ate out a lot (both good and fast food).  About 2/3 of the way through my pregnancy I developed a nasty little Coke habit, one that cost me a cavity, and more than a few pounds I am sure.  It wasn't long after I had my little cubby that we were living in a hotel, moving, and getting settled in a new house/area.  Then it was the holidays.  Oh, the cookies that were made here!  I started feeling a bit like a sugar addict, craving all sorts of the badness that tastes so good when it hits your lips!  I didn't like how I felt, or looked, and knew it was time for a change.

I read Primal Blueprint by Mark Sisson and it was a easy and great read that flies in the face of everything you have ever learned about nutrition and exercise (Conventional Wisdom).  Backed up by science, it focuses on eating real food (not processed), minus sugar, trans-fats, grains, and legumes - just like primal man did before the age of agriculture when all of today's chronic illnesses and epidemics got started.  It was pretty much a summation of all different nutrition, exercise, and lifestyle information that I had been researching the last couple of years.  It brought it all together in one place and was the first "diet" book that was really and truly about a lifestyle change.  The author asserts there are 10 ways of being Primal in the modern world:

1.  Eat lots of animals, plants, and insects (no bugs here, thank you!)
2.  Move around a lot at a slow pace
3.  Lift heavy things
4.  Run really fast once in awhile
5.  Get lots of sleep
6.  Play
7.  Get some sunlight every day
8.  Avoid trauma (be smart, seatbelts, etc)
9.  Avoid poisonous things (McDs, anyone?)
10.  Use your mind

So really, only the first one is about the actual diet, although it probably is the biggest component.  The rest is how you move, think, act, and be in the world.

Many people, when they hear of how we have changed, say, "I couldn't do it."  My response is that I couldn't either, until I did.  And honestly it is a lot easier eliminating a whole food group than counting calories, eating fake food, or counting points.  I did a complete overhaul on our cupboards, throwing or giving everything away with hydrogenated oils, trans fats, canola and other vegetable oils, flours, grains, high-fructose corn syrup, corn syrup, genetically-modified organisms, etc.  We buy and eat a ton of meat, fish, poultry, vegetables and fruit, and nuts.  We buy mainly organic, local, grassfed, pastured meats, eggs, poultry, and pork.  I cook just about everyday and we eat primarily out of our fridge and off the counter.  Real, fresh food.  And it tastes great and is very simple.  We both feel amazing and have taken off about 10 lbs each.  Eric has 2 inches gone from his waist in a month.  We aren't super hungry anymore either, and we eat until we are satisfied, which is a lot less than we ate before - just naturally.  Eric's migraines are almost gone, and he has more energy.  For me, I just feel good!

We have had a few "treats" here or there, but honestly very rarely ever feel the urge to stray.  And if we do, it is more of a thought than a "omg, I must have that NOW" type feeling I've had on other programs.  I have also had to give up dairy due to Oliver's sensitivities, so that has been a big change.  I miss cheese, (and could technically have quality full-fat cheese with this way of eating), but found substituting coconut milk for smoothies, and creamer is working just fine.  I find it much better to focus on what we CAN have, which is pretty much anything else.  We eat plenty of great meat, use plenty of fat in our cooking (extra virgin olive oil, coconut oil, ghee, and butter - just call me Paula!), and haven't met a roasted vegetable we didn't like!

It has only been a month, but I can truly see this being a very long-term thing for us.   Personally, I need to incorporate the exercise portion (which is hard with a baby and the winter up here), but I do pretty well with all the others, most of the time.  We aren't perfect, and even the author says to shoot for 100%, knowing you will realistically hit the 80% mark.  And I am cool with that.  And how can you not love a program in which you indulge in a glass of red wine with some dark chocolate every night?!?

I really encourage you all to read the book, but I will warn you - it slaps conventional wisdom right in the face.  Eat fat to lose fat?  Saturated fat is healthy for you?  Carbs are ruining your body and your hormonal sensitivities?  YES, all true.  Open your mind, and if you decide to give it a shot, I'd LOVE to hear your experiences.


****Of course, I am totally a Primal Mother (extended breastfeeding, babywearing, bedsharing, etc) but that is a post for another day :)  See, it all ties in so nicely!

Saturday, January 21, 2012

Simply 2012

This will be a year of rebuilding (and creating new infrastructure) for us, in many ways.  Especially after the big upheaval with 2011:  a husband home, but not really; a pregnancy with some minor complications, the whole process of the house being ready/shortsale; the move; and the holidays.  The move, so long an endpoint, is now well over and has given us a fresh start.  I have already told you how much I am loving my life right now, and I don't want to be redundant.  But as I did last year, and promised a few weeks ago, I will give you my word for 2012. 

I have a bunch that came to mind, so here is the list:

  • health
  • calm
  • balance
  • home (as a place of refuge)
  • family
  • simple

I finally settled on simple, or simplify, as I feel it best encompasses all these areas, really.  My life has slowed down and it feels REALLY good.  I didn't realize that I was so busy!  I sort of feel like the pendulum is swinging the other way right now, and that is a good thing.  This year I want to focus on being, not doing.   Here is a quick run-down on how I plan on simplifying each area of my life:

Home:  I am continuing the pre-move purge into the post-move purge, and just continuing to streamline.  This is and will always be a work in progress, and I probably still have more than enough, but for me as long as it is practical and visually appealing, it can work.  Currently I am reorganizing the playroom and creating a rotating toy library, which is A LOT of work but I think is good for everyone in the house.  I hired a lovely cleaning lady that comes every 2 weeks so I can complete the day-to-day tasks and still have time to enjoy my babies.  We are working on a good rhythm of our house and also limiting media consumption in all forms.  This is going pretty well, and has sort of happened naturally, which is nice.

Relationships:  We wrote, and are trying to live out, our Family Mission Statement.  A huge focus is on parenting, connection with one another (all of us), and our marriage.  Family comes first in lieu of involvements and commitments to the best of our ability.  We are spending quality family time with one another.  Totally loving being a mom of 2 and family of four, I feel like I am "becoming", fulfilling my potential as a mother.  This truly is a vocation!

Faith:  This has been an area which is faltering for us.  Not our faith per se, but our practice of it.  It has been hard to leave a parish with which we identified as our home.  Everything about that church I miss - the people, the priest, the songs, the community, the activities, etc etc etc.  Our new church here is just fine, nothing will ever compare to what we had.  And so we find ourselves less than excited and it definitely affects how we worship.  SO, now we need to get back to basics.  I need to remember that my faith doesn't need to "look" or "be" a certain way, and that we may be going through this for some reason.  I need to just make it simple by praying without ceasing, and realizing my faith in a whole new way now.  Other than just talking with God, I am working on some more ways to make this more of an active part of our lives.

Work:  Eric has moved to a regular job and life feels much more normal!  As for me, I am not doing my breastfeeding group here, but did find one to attend, and may end up teaching some childbirth classes in a few months.  I am not doing my private practice, and I miss all of that so much.  I am still working on completing my project, but simplifying leaves room for that.  Julia Cameron said, "The creative process is a process of surrender, not control."  And I have to open myself up to that.

Health:  I addressed most of this in my post about how I am digging it here.  A big focus is on our lifestyle right now, and we have totally changed the way we eat.  Eric and I have just about completely cut sugar and grains (including corn and legumes) out of our diets and are concentrating on eating primally.  Eric's migraines are gone and we have never felt better.  We simplified to eat slow, real food and not processed crap.  Sometimes it is more work, and definitely more money, but well worth it!  We buy fresh, local, organic when we can, and have access to fabulous grocery stores, CSAs, and Farmer's Markets here.  We are also continuing in our green efforts in an effort to reduce waste - some new things, we have given up our microwave and are now composting.  If it works, I may also try gardening, but we will see.  As far as exercise, we just need to move!  Just walk, play, yoga, and TTapp, who knows?  I just have to get started.  Nothing fancy, just keepin' it simple.

Finances:  Ugh.  LOTS of work here thanks to our continuing shortsale process (don't even get me started, it has been a trial) and the move.   Our plan is to Dave Ramsey it up once this house deal closes.  And we get our tax return.  Simple - pay down our newly acquired debt, tank up savings, and invest.  Baby steps.

In some ways, the move and the life we lead here begets and fosters these changes just because of circumstances.  Its a good, coming together feeling.  Like I can practice and live how I have wanted to.  I already feel like we are on a solid path, but continue on our journey of ever-improving.  This post isn't as eloquent as I'd like or even how I saw it in my head, but I just wanted to get the ideas down someplace other than scribbles in a notebook.  This is it, folks, home and family, with a random smattering of friends and activity here and there.  This is our time to rebuild.

"Be Still and Heal"  ~ Thich Nhat Hanh

Sunday, January 15, 2012

Irony

Facebook has been frustrating me lately.  When I nurse or am otherwise "stuck" in a chair with a sleeping baby, I often scroll through Facebook on my phone.  And for some reason, it is making me a bit crazy and I am not sure why.  It is almost overstimulating, all the links, photos, and information sometimes makes my head swim.  I have always enjoyed Facebook, but now am having some ambivalence.  I also have always read a bunch of blogs on nutrition, breastfeeding, parenting, etc.  They give me ideas and tools to use that I never considered.  I have cleaned up the ole Google Reader and have started reading them again, and for all except a few, I am feeling the same way.  Information overload maybe?

Another thought.  Your family and childhood friends know you, how you have come up in the world, and your backstory.  They knew you when.  I have often wished through life when I met someone new, especially in college, "oh, if you only knew me back in the day, you would understand why I am like this."  So true.  But as time has marched on, I have grown and evolved into a completely different person along the way.  That person I was then is still there, but in a whole new way.  I have traveled many different paths to arrive where I am now.  And, in the process, have collected and surrounded myself with a bunch of friends who are similar to me and how I live my life.  They are my advice columnists, my support, my normalcy.  We are not exactly the same, and differ widely in the areas of religion, politics, etc, but I know who my peeps are for each and every circumstance that may come up.  I feel like Verizon, I have a Network.  It occurred to me recently that the very same family that I felt used to really "get" me, doesn't really even know the real me anymore.  Of course when you go home, you sort of succumb to who you were and flashes of the now come out occasionally.  But do they understand?  Do they "get" me now?  This divide often leaves me feeling defensive, but I am learning to shrug it off.  I think they are comfortable with who they think they know, and that is enough.  [I don't even know if this makes sense to anyone, because I am having a hard time putting into words what I am feeling.  And no, I am not leading a secret life.] 

If you followed that at all, you will probably think this is normal stuff people realize all the time.  Not sure why this was such a revelation to me the other day.  Facebook has a habit of bringing this to light, though, as all "friends" from all walks of life converge on your thoughts or links shared.  And since I have been feeling a bit irked by all the online media, I am considering taking break from it for a while.  Just tossing it around, no plans just yet.  Maybe for Lent?  The problem is I really like the connection I have to so many friends and resources who I have moved away from.  Maybe I just need new limits?

Ultimately, as much as I use the internet for research, ideas, etc, the "voices" can be too many, and after awhile they all sound the same.  Maybe some truths I need to discover on my own.  Maybe I need to focus on just being.  And let the cards fall where they may.  Who knows, these are all things I am working out in my already overstimulated brain.  Maybe it is because my life has slowed down to a comfortable pace and it feels so good that all the rest feels like "too much". 

I am just writing out loud here, people.  This is my space, my one spot, that I can truly be "me".  Yes it is published online, but I don't share with many people.  If they stumble across it, that is fine.  Obviously, it is public.  I just like having something concrete that I can pour the litany of thoughts into and get it out of my brain.  Just another stop on the information superhighway, adding to the overload.  Oh, the irony!

I like my life

I was thinking today just about how we are now living like I have been wanting for some time.  I love being a family of four, my heart bursts with love for all of them.  We have oodles of family time now and are really finding a good rhythm, tweaking when necessary.  My spouse is supportive and loving and sweet and caring and helpful, my true partner.  My kids are so freaking amazing and I really enjoy being their mother, even when it sucks sometimes.  We are working together to meet our family mission statement, namely with regards to money, parenting, our household, and our life.  I like how we are being conscious with our choices and consumption - I breastfeed, we cloth napkin and diaper, we make our own laundry detergent and deodorant, the kids and I use only natural products from small companies (still working on E), we got rid of our microwave, we buy fresh, local food from farmers at the market (and it is AMAZING), we have recently cut out grain, legumes, and most dairy from our diet and are feeling FABULOUS (and dropping some extra weight too!), we have a Berkey water filter, Vitamix, and SodaStream and I love them all for their healthy aspects, we compost now(!), and of course, continue to recycle.  It just feels like all of these things that I have been wanting to do but have been on hold for one reason or another is finally coming together.  I am living the way I have always wanted, and it feels great (notice a theme?).  It totally helps that Eric is on board and going the journey with me - that whole "same page" thing really makes the difference!

We still have work to do with being more active, but it is hard where we live, especially when it is freezing cold and you have a baby.  But with time, and season change, I have no doubt we will get there.  I still want to change up a few things in the diet area with my little bear, and she how it affects her.  We got complacent when we moved and I need to weed out the "yucky" cleaners in the cabinet.  All in our efforts to strive toward as chemical-free life as we can.  We also want to jump back in to some sort of church life - it has been harder than we realized to leave the church we felt was home to us, and just aren't feeling it up here.  I know we will get out what we put in, and so this is another area to work on.  Eric and I need to work on finding time for us when we aren't exhausted to connect without little bear or the cubby around.  But our communication is going strong, so that is a plus.

I still have goals for 2012 that I will put up sometime soon, I promise!  There is ALWAYS room for improvement.  Our house is not always happy, and there is plenty of frustration, but it is one of JOY.  And, that my friends, is the ultimate goal.  And we will continue to work to make it so.  I really like where I am right now, and really really like my life!