Which one of these is not the same?
So, I have been noticing this for awhile, but it hit me square between the eyes today at "Fun Forrest" (which is totally COOL, btw, can't wait to go back). Anyways, I notice that all the other stay-at-home moms are really cute and thin and dress just so (even while casual). What is wrong with me? There I was, bad hair pulled hastily back into a clip, with my too big capri's (no, not due to weight loss unfortunately) and an ill-fitting tee shirt. No make-up on and my face is broke out. I am glad other moms have their shit together, but again, is there something that I am just not getting?
Drastically lowering my expectations DOES get me through, especially while gearing up for the 18 month old stage, but it does NOTHING for my self-esteem.
(On a more positive note, 10 days in a row of T-Tapp.)
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Oh, I so feel you on this. My little group are all taller, thinner, younger, and, AND! they fantasize about being on the show "What Not to Wear." They think Stacy is glamorous, and they like the idea of having a massive makeover. I think they have enough money to do it themselves... but really, these women think it's sporting to be cut down and verbally abused, humiliated, for wearing a sloppy ensemble or three? They WANT this? I just want t-shirts long enough to hide my mom-roll and I'll be content.
What makes me crazy is the implicit suggestion that I, too, "need" a makeover, and that I, too, should prioritize that. In the meantime, these women never take their kids anywhere much because they're too concerned about being judged over a meltdown, while we head out and I have simply learned to drive urban gridlock with jet-engine screaming in the back seat as a worthwhile sacrifice for an afternoon's mutual delight at the zoo. So who's sloppy now, and who's not putting forth requisite effort?
I like what effective nancy said!
I really believe that what shows on the outside is not indicative of what is going on the inside (inside of the person and inside as in behind the closed doors of their house). In fact, when I used to feel my worst, I would dress my best to cheer myself up. People probably thought I had it all together on the days when I was falling apart the most! (Please note that I no longer bother with this since having the kiddo.)
I know I get like this too sissa, and not because I had a kid (I didn't) but because I got fat. However, why should we always feel inferior to these cute, "all-together" women that strut their stuff all over???? We should not! Maybe we should think about making changes to the way we feel about/see ourselves (who says we can't wear one size too big pants and comfy shirts when at the park???) and know in our own minds that we are SOOO much more together and comfortable than those other ladies! DEATH TO THE SKINNY BITCHES!!! (just kidding.... hee hee!)
Well, I am certainly glad to see I am in good company! Right on, girls!
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